Why don’t you ever praise me?
The dictionary defines praise as the act of expressing approval, admiration or
commendation.
Every one of us desires praise at some level, and in one form or
another.
Praise is a member of the family of emotional needs: validation, recognition,
approval, acceptance, support, encouragement,...
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Why don’t you ever praise me? The dictionary defines praise as the act of expressing approval, admiration or commendation. Every one of us desires praise at some level, and in one form or another. Praise is a member of the family of emotional needs: validation, recognition, approval, acceptance, support, encouragement, significance, self-expression, bonding, friendship, and so forth. Children and praise Many of my adult clients suffer from various emotional symptoms as a result of not receiving praise as a child which is also equivalent to validation and guidance. Adults who didn’t receive praise as a child often suffer from self-doubt, insecurity and a lingering sense of not being or feeling good enough. Some turn into perfectionists, workaholics, or highly judgmental people. Unfortunately, today, the balance has tipped in favor of unhealthy praise by parents for their children. Unhealthy refers to false praise which can create even more emotional problems into adulthood such a
Moins
Par patrickwanis
Microsoft Word
Publiée le 29 Juin 2009
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Positivity isn’t enough for success
Now let’s talk about why positivity isn’t enough to guarantee your success.
This week, one of my new clients called me up distressed.
Joe had recently completed a
three-day seminar on personal development.
He had invested over three thousand
dollars to attend the seminar that he expected to...
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Positivity isn’t enough for success Now let’s talk about why positivity isn’t enough to guarantee your success. This week, one of my new clients called me up distressed. Joe had recently completed a three-day seminar on personal development. He had invested over three thousand dollars to attend the seminar that he expected to be life-changing. Joe returned from the training program excited and positive about his new life. Joe made sure that he was acting positively but after three weeks passed, Joe became despondent. His life and results had not changed. His enthusiasm from the seminar had started to wane. He still had the same fears and the same issues he had prior to participating in the seminar. Joe still felt insecure, unable to speak up for himself and was still being controlled by his brother, jumping whenever his brother asked him to do so. Joe still had challenges with social anxiety, and often declined invitations to events and parties. He still also had financial c
Moins
Par patrickwanis
Microsoft Word
Publiée le 29 Juin 2009
Pages: 2
Lectures: 5
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The Pyschology of falling in love
Love is a state that exists within you and someone else triggers that state so that you fall
in love.
How does that psychological process work?
“Can you think of someone in your life who instantly brings a smile to your face or a
warm feeling inside of you? “
One such person for me was my high...
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The Pyschology of falling in love Love is a state that exists within you and someone else triggers that state so that you fall in love. How does that psychological process work? “Can you think of someone in your life who instantly brings a smile to your face or a warm feeling inside of you? “ One such person for me was my high school drama teacher, Mr. Niven. He was hailed as a great director because of the plays and musicals he produced. What truly made him great though were his teaching abilities. There was a magical quality about him that brought out the best in almost everyone in the class. He created the safe place for the drama students whereby we felt that we could freely express ourselves on stage. And that was the key: he brought out in us that which already existed in us. All he had to do was to tap into our talent. He didn’t make us great actors –he brought out the great actor within each of us. Thus, we had great admiration for him and a strong bond, connection, a
Moins
Par patrickwanis
Microsoft Word
Publiée le 29 Juin 2009
Pages: 2
Lectures: 18
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Dealing with emotional vampires
Almost every one of us has someone in our life whom we wish we could change or
whom we wish would change; desiring them to do things differently or to be different.
It
might be a boss, coworker, colleague, team member, friend, family member or worse, a
romantic partner.
Understanding that we cannot...
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Dealing with emotional vampires Almost every one of us has someone in our life whom we wish we could change or whom we wish would change; desiring them to do things differently or to be different. It might be a boss, coworker, colleague, team member, friend, family member or worse, a romantic partner. Understanding that we cannot change anyone (except ourselves) is step one to inner peace. Step two is to understand yourself and others. Step three is change yourself. Step four is clear out of your life those people that are parasites or bring you down. A client of mine was relating to me that all the women in his life expect him to support them (on many levels) but they never support him. I explained to him that there are only two types of relationships: parasitic (one person living and feeding off the other person) and symbiotic (the two people mutually supporting and benefitting each other. ) A parasite can feed off you mentally, emotionally or energetically. I refer to these
Moins
Par patrickwanis
Microsoft Word
Publiée le 29 Juin 2009
Pages: 3
Lectures: 22
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Freeing the Emotional Vampire in you!
Let me begin by saying that all of us have some level of emotional vampire within us –
unless we are enlightened, elevated beings i.
e.
perfect, and of course, we are not! The
danger is when we tip the balance and this sort of behavior dominates or begins to
destroy our life.
One of my favorite...
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Freeing the Emotional Vampire in you! Let me begin by saying that all of us have some level of emotional vampire within us – unless we are enlightened, elevated beings i. e. perfect, and of course, we are not! The danger is when we tip the balance and this sort of behavior dominates or begins to destroy our life. One of my favorite daily mantras/affirmations is “I observe my own behavior” which leads to self-awareness and allows me to admit that there are aspects of me that I need to change – daily. Accordingly, step one to all change and transformation is Awareness; in this case becoming aware of your behavior and its consequences. Step two is Understanding; understanding the roots and origins of the behavior which of course is driven by subconscious beliefs and emotions. Step three is Reprogramming; shifting your perception and beliefs, and releasing negative emotions which, in turn liberates you. Of course, given that this is the process to healing and therapy, it cannot be do
Moins
Par patrickwanis
Microsoft Word
Publiée le 29 Juin 2009
Pages: 3
Lectures: 10
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What do you value?
In this week’s article, I would like to explain the link between your values and your
misery or success.
Now let’s talk about clashing values and your success or failure.
Divorce attorneys identify that the top two causes for divorce are money and sex.
What
the divorce attorneys fail to tell you is that the...
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What do you value? In this week’s article, I would like to explain the link between your values and your misery or success. Now let’s talk about clashing values and your success or failure. Divorce attorneys identify that the top two causes for divorce are money and sex. What the divorce attorneys fail to tell you is that the real cause of divorce is arguments over money and sex. In other words, the arguments stem over clashing values and beliefs regarding money and sex. Clashing values lead to the breakdown of relationships, friendships and businesses. Identical or complimentary values lead to flourishing relationships in all areas of life. I have said before that the very first step to success is to identify what you want in life. And to do that, you need to clearly establish what is important and meaningful to you – your values. Values can be defined as: A principle, standard, or quality considered worthwhile or desirable. In other words, your Core Values is a list of the
Moins
Par patrickwanis
Microsoft Word
Publiée le 29 Juin 2009
Pages: 2
Lectures: 6
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Handling the fear
The present state of affairs around the world is causing fear amongst people – fear
about the economy, war, terrorism and the future.
For many people, there is great
uncertainty and for others the challenge is about getting-by; basic survival.
I would like to begin by helping you to understand what fear really is...
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Handling the fear The present state of affairs around the world is causing fear amongst people – fear about the economy, war, terrorism and the future. For many people, there is great uncertainty and for others the challenge is about getting-by; basic survival. I would like to begin by helping you to understand what fear really is with an excerpt from my book: “Get What You Want”: “Fear is the greatest killer of all human potential. Fear is what stops us from even trying to get what we want. Fear stands between us and everything we want out of life. Fear, though does not exist. Read that sentence again. You might be shocked even annoyed by that statement because fear does feel real. Its physical crippling effect on our body, mind and emotions is real. But fear is not something tangible. We cannot hold it, see it or touch it. Fear is simply a thought, a very powerful thought. Fear is the anticipation of pain, and our mind responds quickly to the alarm bell that pain is immin
Moins
Par patrickwanis
Microsoft Word
Publiée le 29 Juin 2009
Pages: 2
Lectures: 6
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12 Strategies to overcome economic fear & anxiety
To start with, let me clear you the Difference between positive thinking and solutionoriented thinking?
Positive thinking is often closer to denial than it is to reality or problem solving.
For example, John has just been in a car accident and is lying on the side of the road
bleeding...
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12 Strategies to overcome economic fear & anxiety To start with, let me clear you the Difference between positive thinking and solutionoriented thinking? Positive thinking is often closer to denial than it is to reality or problem solving. For example, John has just been in a car accident and is lying on the side of the road bleeding and injured. We cannot ignore his physical state or pain and simply say, “Smile, don’t worry, be happy. ” We need to acknowledge the severity of the situation in order to be able to offer help and provide the solution – in this case the urgent medical help. We can still remain calm and hopeful but we must take action – immediate action. The attitude can be positive but it must be solution-oriented, backed with action. The same applies to the situation in which so many of us presently find ourselves: real challenges to cover bills and in some cases survive. Yes, we need to be hopeful and positive but we must also take action to get the results we want
Moins
Par patrickwanis
Microsoft Word
Publiée le 22 Mai 2009
Pages: 3
Lectures: 2
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Kicking Bad Habits
What comes to your mind when I use the expression “kick the habit”? What habits are
not serving you in your life?
A habit is an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost
involuntary.
In other words, if we practice something long enough, often enough and on
a consistent basis then it...
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Kicking Bad Habits What comes to your mind when I use the expression “kick the habit”? What habits are not serving you in your life? A habit is an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary. In other words, if we practice something long enough, often enough and on a consistent basis then it becomes a habit; it takes over us, it controls us and we do it without conscious thought or questioning. We also need to understand that we engage in habits of doing and not doing. In other words, if you do not exercise, then that is also a habit – not exercising. Recently, the US government applied the largest tax hike ever on cigarettes and combined with other state charges and taxes, suddenly, I have been inundated for requests by people for help to kick the habit of smoking. People often speak in terms of ‘breaking a habit’ but the actual process does not simply involve pattern interruption, it involves replacing the habit with something else which s
Moins
Par patrickwanis
Microsoft Word
Publiée le 22 Mai 2009
Pages: 3
Lectures: 2
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